It’s been over 15 years now since I first became a mommy . Sometimes it seems like yesterday, sometimes it seems like a lifetime ago.

I remember those first few overwhelming months. Questioning literally everything I was doing. Reading books to tell me whether or not I was doing it the way it should be done. Staying up most nights, battling a gassy baby, frustrations from both of us, leaky booby’s, spit up running down my shoulder, and all we both wanted probably was sleep.

No new mom has everything figured out. I think when you go through the first few weeks/months/years you’re just doing your best that you can do. Doing your best to survive every day.

I really wish sometimes I could go back to those days, and tell my younger, new mommy self a few tips. I like to share this advice with my moms that come into the studio too. You can feel the sleep deprived stress sometimes. And I know those mommies are just like me. They’re just trying to survive, trying to do everything right.

1. Did you get through the day? Did your baby survive the day? I would call that a win. You don’t have to have the whole house clean, and dinner waiting on the table with a brand new baby. You don’t have to have that ever… baby or not. I definitely wouldn’t put so much pressure on myself to be the perfect mom. I would pay myself on the back just because my baby and I got through the whole day together. We had survived. It’s truly all that needs to happen in the first few weeks.